Self-Control Depletion Theory

Self-Control Depletion Theory tries to explain in a sentence what life explains in a decade. It is a fair compression.

What the theory says, finally, is that people are predictable in their unpredictability. That is useful knowledge. It lets you forgive more and be surprised less.

The idea is simple, and like most simple ideas it is easy to nod at and hard to use. The nod is free. The use costs attention, every day, in small change.

Think of the grandfather who plants a mango tree he will never sit under. Ask him why, and he will look at you as if the question were the strange thing.

In the end, life asks only whether we were awake while it happened. The name is new; the wisdom stood at bus stops long before either of us.